“The Real Flex” is “the ability to distinguish”

As for Laban Kaghir, his unlikely to wrestling was the glory while he was with Crosson’s syndrome, which was what he called the “hero’s journey”.

Kjar, who was born with genetic disorder that affects bone growth in the skull and leads to a difference in the cranial, is the subject of the new documentary film Province: the story of Ben Kajjar By director Tanner Christinn. The film was first shown at the Slamdance Film Festival in Los Angeles on February 23.

The 41-year-old sports player in Utah was not always aware that he would be able to join a sport, much less than that of the state champion three times and NCAA Division I All-Mamerican. His father, Scott, said in the movie that the fourth is among seven children, “almost without life.”

His mother Stana said: “He was struggling very much for every soul.”

Kristensen, who grew up in the same city of Utah’s small state, like Ben, has documented the life of the athlete in the movie, which includes interviews as well as personal photos and home videos that show everything from a post -surgery young man to his struggle on the wrestling mat.

Bin said: “He narrated the true story.” “What we see on social media is the most prominent times often, and we do not see low lights.”

To preserve that originality, Kristensen showed the confidence of Ben in building and expelling all over the documentary. Anything else “seemed just tampering.” Kristensen also said that he “does not want to preach it.”

This is how Christinon narrated the story in time, from the birth of Bin Sadah to the place where he is now – a married father with happiness for three times.

“I just wanted to be normal”

At the age of 9 months, Bin I had surgery to make room for his increasing mind. It was scheduled to take 10 to 12 hours.

Stana believed that this would be a “moment of collapse”, as she would not be able to care for her son. Instead, she said in the movie, “I only had a warm blanket falling over me. Every day he is with us, we will do everything we can.”

This is exactly what the KJAR family did. Instead of the treatment of Ben Kikka, a sensitive object he could not live a normal life, they treated him like anyone else in the family – which included a supportive group of aunts, uncles and cousins ​​who “did not realize that he was at all different.”

However, as soon as they start noticing the looks of children and other adults-and how they started influencing Ben-realized that they needed to find a way to build his self-confidence.

“You just feel that you just want to fit,” Ben said to Yahoo Enteintment: “For the majority of my life, I just wanted to be normal.”

His parents joined him in everything from piano lessons to dance to a children’s singing group. While they did not put Ben in a corner or wrapped in the cover of bubbles, what they did is sport. Doctors had warned them of sport to contact, specifically due to possible head injuries.

However, this is the path that Bin eventually wanted to take.

When his older brother accompanied the Wrestling Championship for middle school children, Ben could not stay away from the event. Although he is not official in the championship, Ben withdrew children from side lines and struggled “from eight to 10”, according to the coach, who appears in the movie. Therefore, Ben won a special wrestling medal for most people that night.

Ben said in the film: “This gave me a sample of what it seemed to have completely noticed,” Ben said in the movie.

Ultimately, his parents retreated and allowed milk to wrestle, while admitting how to influence it positively on his confidence. The film recounts how difficult it is to work at first to simply keep up with.

What the film also, regardless of sport, is the emotional shock that Ben had to bear as a child. To show this, Ben Westsinson took the choice of renting Colon Fielding, a child’s actor with Crosson’s syndrome, both similar to Ben and he has the same character and energy.

“You see it in the elementary [school] “Hall, we were supposed to give five five,” Bin explained about himself the younger in the documentary, “and he gives a final step to the tournament.”

Ben even sat with Felding’s father to say that his role was important to “make a real influence.” He told the two parents:

There are a tragic moments of the field when a young man was bullying in school, as well as from the father and two children in the grocery store. At some point, he goes to his bathroom at home who wants to “take off his face”.

Ben said that to photograph bullying scenes, they photographed the corners separately, with the dialogue of fatwas and photography procedures in a different time such as Fielding scenes.

Ben said: “It was when Colon, Little Ben, was in another room, so he would not have to hear this and affect him.” Second, the two children – both the boy and the girl in the market – are his brother and sister. “

“The Hero’s Journey”

The film is followed by “Al -Jaa”, as he trained to be a wrestler in middle schools and high school despite his disadvantages: He was shorter than each opponent, small hands, short ends, and his uncle and coach Shandel Smot in the movie.

But Bin continued, even saying in the second year of high school that he would win the state championship three times. (He had a “3xss” correction made for his messages before winning one one.)

He was recruited by many schools, ultimately joined the University of Utah Valley, where he won multiple victories and saw his face in signs about the campus. This is where his student colleague Lakul Grant, who in the end became his girlfriend and then his wife. Their relationship was not without challenges.

Through tears, Grant describes her mother’s negative reaction when she and her parents told that they were marrying – a decision that the family finally accepted.

Despite these struggles, Ben Kalim appreciates the winning of the self -described “champion”. For him, what began as the desire to be another person in the end, has become proud to accept the “best” and how he emerged.

“For the majority of my life, I literally wanted to be normal. Ben said:” I just wanted to fit. “And if that is not the biggest pet for me today.”

Today, as a motivational speaker, Ben turned his attention to “the unique individuals there who only pray and wish that if your difference has just disappeared – as I was, like a young boy in the bathroom, if I can take off my face – if this difference has disappeared, then life will be better.”

But he asked, “What if this was not the answer?”

“What is the real elasticity today?” He continued. “The Real Flex is” You 1.0 “, with internal peace, then the ability to distinguish in itself.